Why Thailand? From a Happy Expatriate.

Why are so many men fleeing their native countries to live in Thailand? What does Thailand have that attracts these men? I say “men” because I see very few single farang females living here. It’s more likely a combination of factors, low cost of living, relatively low level of crime, affordable housing, and easy access to transportation along with Thai women.

Let’s talk about Thai women. Western women seem to hate Thailand and are jealous of the women. I notice more and more overweight farang women on TV and visiting here waddling down the street. They can be detected miles away by their scowls, loud voices and lack of respect. But luckily they can be easily spotted and avoided.

They think the men who come here can’t deal with “strong” Western women. Ha! All I’ve seen in my life in the States are that American women are high-strung, high-maintenance, rude, fat, clumsy and neurotic. There seem to be no real ladies left, ladies meaning women who like, respect and appreciate men.

Anger, resentment and neediness seem to be the main driving factors of American women. If these sad women were a “tiny minority” why all the horror stories from divorced men who lost their house and children? Why is the divorce rate 60%? Not all of the expatriates are deluded or crazy.

If there are decent, nice, attractive ladies available I and my friends never saw them. It’s not just the available bar-girls and “pay for play” scene. Thai women are just damn pleasant, feminine and attractive. Are men who come here losers? Well, if you simply want to trash all expats there are plenty of loud, boorish, sloppy crude men to see. What is ignored are the fit, relatively sober, well-groomed, decent men in LOS.

I see them walking happily down the Soi with their Thai wife and beautiful children. Well enough about Western females. Life in Thailand is just plain damn present. A man gets ups in his affordable nice room either in Bangkok or Pattaya or upcountry. If in Bangkok he can take the excellent Skytrain or subway system for fast, safe, efficient transportation to destinations within the system.

He can choose from thousands of places to eat, from humble noodle carts to fancy restaurants. He’s greeted with a wai and a smile most of the time and is served tasty food that’s well-cooked and inexpensive. His choice of entertainment is vast; in Bangkok besides the obvious nightclub scene are several fine music venues such as “Saxophone Café” and “Tokyo Joe’s”.

The “Thailand Cultural Center” often has world-class classical music at nominal costs in an auditorium with great acoustics. Cinemas are state of the art, clean, well-maintained with reserved seating, no long queues, pushing or shoving. Most Thais respect themselves and others; if a Thai bumps into you they turn and immediately apologize.

Of course there’re the disadvantages which most expatriates acknowledge. The unremitting heat, mosquitoes, filth in some areas, uncollected trash and Thai concept of timeliness and accountability. But despite this the amenities outweigh the drawbacks. I and other expatriates feel at home for the first time in our lives.

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Reader's comments:

Thai women at best are ok I wish thailand had more foriegn women Added by: Brian    Report abuse

You sound bitter because you couldn t get the good looking women at home. You know very well that there are good-looking, nice, well-educated and successful women in the US. You just can t have them, for reasons that you well know. Added by: Anonymous    Report abuse

well I am a pretty petite (sexy) dutch lady married to a gorgeous australian guy and live between Nong Khai and Australia. The Thai people we mix with (professionals) wouldnt consider most of the farangs that wobble down the road with their bar girls/school girls clutching their arms/wallets lol. For us a gorgeous Thai girl is someone lovely to look at and a professional with own income not reliant on a fat old balding farang that uses his wallet as a means of bribery in le sac seeing a professional ex pat/diplomat with a Thai intelligent counterpart is a joy to see. Nothing worse then seeing a farang talking pidgeon english not only to his slave but also to his farng counterparts!. What idiots you look Added by: Heidi    Report abuse

Gee some really biiter white girls on here. If I am 90 and have a 25 year old wife to pump, then thats legend not loser lOL Added by: The King    Report abuse

funky babe, what kind of a name is that? id love to shit in your mouth. Added by: funky babe    Report abuse

I have mixed feelings about the above rant. I have been happily married to a Thai women for over eighteen years, but in my situation I married her in thr United States and not because she was Asian but because we dated in college and were compatible. My friends seem to a bit jealous because most of their wives after years of marriage have gained weight and let themselves go, but my wife is athletic and keeps herself in shape, my friends think that she is twenty years younger than myself even though we are the same age, but that is an individual thing, I do know that majority of asians do age slower than caucasians, probably because most asian women try to stay out of the sun, where in Western culture women like to bask in the sun in order to obtain a tan. After ten years of marriage I finally made it to Thailand and I fell in love with the country immediately. Upon meeting her family I was treated like a king, everyone from the entire town came to greet me and had a special dinner on the occaison. I now go to Thailand four months of every year and miss being there when I am away. Now about the above post, I myself dislike when foriegners go to Thailand and exploit the Thais, even though it might benefit the economy it irks me to see old men with girls who could be their grandchildren. I do not have a problem with men who go there to find women in the same age range that they would date in their own countries. I do see lots of caucasian women scowl at me, of course they think that my wife is just a girl I picked up at a bar, but I pay it no mind, Thais themselves also think the same. but they do so with smiles on their face. If for some unknown reason I was single again, would I choose a Thai women over someone of my own makeup, you bet, for me its not just the Thai women, its the entire culture that I love. Now not everything is a bed of roses when you marry a Thai, there are pros and cons, for one thing most Thais are old fashion, you marry the women, you marry the entire family so get used to having company. As an American we usually are more independant of the family, and gather for special occaisons, birthdays, holidays etc, being married to Thai, having family over for an all day affair can occur at a moments notice. Thais love to cook, eat and socialize all day and night, get used to it. Also get used to the parents spending a day, week, month at your place. Thais are also very conservative in nature, what you see in the bars is much different than you would see when they have been married for a while. Don t expect a Thai women to wear a thong at the beach, won t happen, even if she happens to have a killer bod. My wife has a great body, great ass, legs and upper body but she is to shy to show it off. Most Thai women are not flamboyant, you want to find a flamboyant Thai, then go to where that Thai ladyboys hang out. Another thing, a lot of Thais that I have encountered love gold, it is part of their culture traditions and heritage and they believe gold to bring them good luck. They do like to wear gold, and they like their husbands to wear some gold as well. So be expected to fork out some cash for jewelry once in a while. Added by: Addictedtothai    Report abuse

I went to Pattaya and I am 19 years old. I went there and was treated so well. While you can consider me Naive and young I will tell you what I have expirienced. 1 I have had girlfriends in Los Angeles ranging from 18 to 24. However I will tell you now I rather have a Thai girl friend any day. Walking down the beach or street I spent less money on a girl here in a week than I have on one date back in L.A, I meet an attractive Thai girl smile and compliment, go to a restaraunt, have some fun parasailing, or jet sking, and I leter that night I let her go with the option of coming back with me, and she always chooses to go back with me. And in the morning she is on her way after some breakfast she brought me and every single piece of contact information she could possibly have. Total cost for the food and water sports 60 USD less than the Gas to fill up my V6 back home. But I do not deny even though I did not pay for the sex and she catered to me she was most likely a prostitute but if its free let it be Added by: Aragon    Report abuse

i aree,I see these ball bustin drama queens all day long here in L.A. they want to deball you so you ll walk around like a unic the rest of your life, 4ft 11 inch 95lb Thai for me anyday hands down! Added by: wood    Report abuse

So basically you have to go halfway across the world because your ugly, fat ass can t get laid in America. Sad. Added by: 1234    Report abuse

The Asian woman is much more educated than the american woman. Even poor uneducated asian women are more industrious than american woman. Men do everything for women, smart woman like most Thai ladies have us men figured out, bully for them. Do not be angry if two people are happy together, that defines a loser vs a winner. Added by: ohyeahwhataguy    Report abuse

Beware!! You western men are not as desirable as you mistakenly believe yourselves to be - your ugly kind are the most repulsive I have ever had the misfortune to witness in my lifetime, you generally have very little resemblance to Greek Gods with your pasty blemished skin, soft bellies and poor muscle tone - what ugly dogs you are!!!! Poor Thai women and any other type of woman that gets involved with you ugly mingers I guess they just stare at the ceiling and dream of delicious Thai cuisine during your manly panting sessions. Added by: Funky Babe!!!!    Report abuse

I didn t realise what a fat miserable fcku my ex wife was untill I first visited thailand.I didn t know that there were still beatuiful sensuous CARING ladies that found me attractive. Nothing to do with money, how could any thai lady cream me for as much as my ex ...You may end up losing a house if you make a bad choice over here but when its only cost as much as your caravan back home DOES IT REALLY MATTER. NO it doesn t I know who I would sooner benefit. Added by: new2thai    Report abuse

Just a quick note: I came to thailand a year ago. Stayed a month and had no women. Just looked and traveled. I saw the farang men with young women. And the farang man with women close to his age. I chose to persue a woman close to my own age. This year i came back for 3 months and am going to retire here now that i have met a good woman. You have no idea how many good women there are here in thailand. Middle class women crying for a good responsible man. The middle class women of thailand are smart, attractive, well groomed, and easy to be with. All tell me strories of there ex-husband drinking and smoking and having a second or third woman. Leaving them there to take care of the children. I think after being here for a while now. There are many many good thai men here. The same as any country. Some good some bad. I met a school teacher here. Who has a house, car, attractive, and smart. Personally I think if you are looking for a good thai relationship this is the way to go. I have no regrets. I raised my family in the states. Have a wonderful son. That I love. After pleading with my wife of 23 years to join the gym with me. And start having fun in our older years. And after years of frustration. I decided it was best for me as a man to persue my dream of a attractive and good woman to be with. It just so happens there are a ton of women looking for the same thing in thailand. Good women of thiland do not look for men who drink or smoke in excess. They are middle class women who want a responsible man. Conclusion.. I am not going home to the states.. I am staying here for the rest of my life. My small retirement check is enough for me here. My girlfriend workes and makes good money. I am happy again. Added by: Gary    Report abuse

Typical responses from the fembots, if u dont find white women attarct or nice they throw your mother or sister into the mix, its just emotional blackmail. Men are not happy with what feminism has done to women, so they are seeking foreign women with better attitudes, loess confrontational, co-operators, partners. All women including white western women marry for money, all women are no different, so why not marry one that is easy to get along with, women have the right to be who they want, but men also have the right to choose what they want in a women without it being labelled sexual exploitation and servitude. But white women are feeling the pinch, as men are moving away from them as choice for wife or partner, so we get the usual reactions. They will say that the asian women are only interested in us for our money, yep like all women, they say the asian women are submissive yet asian women have been heads of state in their countries, not many in the west have achieved that. They will say that the men are all losers that cannot get western women, point is they dont want them, and it is hurting western white women. All the men are fat, old, bald losers. Their women are slaves, whores, shemales, have STD s etc. Its all just sour grapes. Definition of a loser in the feminist dictionary: Any man who will not submit to feminism hegemony. If that makes us a loser, then we still choose to be that way, but we are happy losers with delicious asian wives who love us and spoil us. What does a white women do when she wants something from her husband?, she divorces him. What does an asian women do when she wants something from her husband, she spoils him. Which do u think men would choose. white women think that they are empowered and affirmative, but they are just confrontational on all issues. Men are tired of ur feminist rhetoric, you can be a feminist, but just be prepared to be alone just like Germaine Greer. Added by: Picco    Report abuse

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