Yes, You Can Find True Love in Pattaya!

I read and listen to so much that is written about Thailand and Pattaya in particular, and to be honest most of it gives me a good laugh!

We all know by now that no Thai 'Bar-Girl' earns a lot of money simply by working in the bars! They have no option but to offer 'extras' in order to survive, and that's basically what they are 'SURVIVORS'.

I am sure that all of your readers (www.mypattaya.com) know by now that Thai girls have to support their parents, in fact if you ask a pregnant Thai girl what baby she wants and you will always be told that they want a girl so that the girl can look after the mother when she gets old!

That's the way it is over there and we should really try to understand what they have to go through to survive. Remember they are not born 'Bar Girls', this is something that they have to do to support their families!

Don't get me wrong in all the time that I have been going to Pattaya I have seen it all! There are lots of Thai girls who will fleece you for everything that they can get, and it seems that these are the girls who everyone seems to talk about and all the 'good' girls (and there are millions of them) are all tarred with the same brush!

I am happy and proud to say that I must be one of those very few lucky 'farangs' who met a Thai girl (ex-Bar-Girl), married her and have so far after 4 years lived very happily!

We live together in the UK, my wife works very hard, we have a fantastic house in Pattaya and are very much in love. Believe me if you are lucky enough to find the right Thai girl she will be the most loyal soulmate that you will ever know, I know because I have her!

Enjoy yourself in Thailand and Pattaya but remember for all the bad girls you may meet there is a good girl somewhere, you just need to broaden your horizons and you may be lucky enough to find her. Good luck.


Submitted by : Anonymous
26-Apr-06

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Reader's comments:

true love tell me please what is true love from a thai... i have been with one lady 6 years and i still dont understand them fully,,what is it about losing face surly if u have been together for this long losing face should mean nothing between the two of you??????? Added by: pinkfox    Report abuse

I have only been to Pattaya once but am going back soon, on my second day there I met a girl she ended up staying with me in my various hotels for over 3 weeks and I hardly paid her shit. I agree that some of them are money grubbers that cant be trusted but she is different. It was funny the way it happened I got a long time with her the first time and then she moved in with all her worldly possessions two days later, after that all I had to buy was her food and some small presents and drinks from seven 11. We had alot of fun too and I ll see her on my next trip. Having a thai girlfriend is great. Added by: Aussie Farang    Report abuse

The Thai girl sells the farang the body for money. If you see what Thai girl has done with the customer before you, it would make you vomit. If you see what she does with the customer after you it will give you nightmares. Like Buddha says desire will lead to suffering. Please don t have romantic ideas about these girls. Added by: get real    Report abuse

after so many years going to thailand i meet a lot of different ladies up there and beloive me the most who cheated, lie were just normal thai ladie, all them have something in comon they are masters of sedution...at moment they are also some good one but look wery carefully even you sound wery happy with one she allways can fuck you bedly even after after a few years it looks wery negative but maybe you can find true one anywhere, in bars at street, beach etc... love is a mistery one thing is sure if she talks too much about money or pressure you about it leave it, just go a good thai girl never talks about money for make love and if you pay something why not if you have a fat westerner you wil get more expensive...love... love just live the moment maybe tomorow she hates you have a great time in thai, beware they are changing not only to blame them but us farang too Added by: rodrigues53@hot    Report abuse

I find love in Pattaya everytime I go. what is your definition of love anyway? The ladys I meet and stay with there have been the most loveing ladys I have ever known. I hate going home. they are the most trusting, self-sacraficing ladys I have ever met also. the fact that they need money, is not their fault any more than it is ours . I belive that it is the system of our worlds Economy that has created this delusion which makes us think that because they ask or need our money that it is not true love. any one of us can decide to have "true " love if we were to remove the conflict between money and love. perhaps if the "money" wasn't what we were seeking most of the time and not "true" love we would find them both. Giving our Earned moneys to some bargirl in Pattaya for her Love and company during our short stay is more than worth IT. try to think how long it takes for one of these girls to give up on the concept of true love once she starts working Bar. one month two twenty?. I loved a girl their who worked bar for 7 years and she had still wanted to find true love. Now was she rare? I don't know, but I spoke with her recently and she has found a man to take care of her,she is now back home finaly with her son, I know from being her friend and learning from her that the life of a bar girl is not always easy. there are some real Asshole that go to that place. and some time it can be very painful, degrading and dificult to cope. these are real human beings with Hearts and minds and Dreams. the problems on our planet and in this particular society were already there befor they where. As real men I would suggest that you treat each and every one of them as the beautiful works of art that thay are and cherish every experience you have with them, good or bad. we all get what we are. so don't go looking for love, go willing to give it. you may be surprised with what you find Added by: Tony    Report abuse

Thai girls are no different then American girl. They love money and party time. I have enjoyed the company of many Thai women, bar-girls, Massage girls,freelance whores from the beach and i found them to be all wonderful companions. In at least a half a dozen times in Pattaya, I have never been ripped off, quoted a price, short or long time. They all expected you to be fair when you leave. I have enjoyed their company from 3 days to 5 weeks, traveled all over Thailand by plane bus or train with never a problem. Too me it has been some of my greatest love affairs. Then you leave with no regrets, no alimony and no babies to support. I love Thai ladies and shall return in 3 months for a 3 month stay. Added by: Dennis, Calif.    Report abuse

pattaya is awsome whores are sweet i am sure there are some good ones they are human but you do definately watch your back. if you play it right you can have a damn good time if they catch you slipping your done. for instance one time i had a girl come over for free. so in the morning i banged her then another girl called me and said she ws coming over so i told the first girl i had to leave got rid of her then had the other one up to my room. so in short i banged 2 thai whores for free before 11 in the morning i think that is justplaying the game. JUST DONT START FORKING OVERCASH Added by: NICK    Report abuse

All women change after marriage, regardless of race or national origin. They get fat, they get lazy and they dont want to fuck nearly as much, so for this reason I work in Iraq and travel the world in my free time fuckin my brains out because when its all said and done, variety is the spice of life. Added by: Dawson    Report abuse

I met a girl about a year ago, she lives in Bangkok and works making garments, she has never worked the bar, I met her through some friends, I go to Pattaya 3 times a year and she comes to stay with me then goes back to work, however, she still likes my money and I get all the stories, papa sick, you know, this one time she gave this line so I said we would go to her village and see him, upon arriving her papa was actually in hospital being treated for some ilness he's had for some years. As the previous guys have said, there are some genuine girls out there, but also a lot that aren't. I've got a strange feeling the guy who said they are all whores has beeen taking for a ride, he's the fool for not seeing it coming. Belive me there are some good ladys out there, just be carefull. Added by: Andrew from Eng    Report abuse

All bar girls are whores,and you married one you fool,i have probably had sex with her,aswel as millions of others.wake up and smell the coffee you love sick idiot.watch your money disapear.you are just a sugar daddy,and a mr bean. Added by: Rowly,England.    Report abuse

Fantastic to see im not the only one to meet a "good girl" my whife has been so for 8years up and is the true Light in my life. I think it is the focusing on the money that makes many men chickening out they just dont understand the situation and why many girls do what they do for a LIVIN´. Broaden and think not "now" think and plan for the future and a Thai girl will be the perfect companion. Added by: Marc    Report abuse

Yes,you can find true love in PATTAYA,not all girls are working in bars,some work in hotels,nine hours a day for 5000 Bath a month,they are happy to find a Fahrang who takes care of her and she is happy and cares for the Fahrang,makes food and cleans the house and loves the man who cares for her.I know,I ve been married to a bargirl and hapily divorced,bargirls do not know the value of money,they do not love you,they love your money.Now I have a girl who works,she knows the value of money,and she loves me,but I shal never marie a Thai girl again,beware ladys can change when you marie them............ Added by: Michel.    Report abuse

YOU CAN TAKE THE GIRL FROM THE BAR,BUT YOU CARNET TAKE THE BAR OUT OV THE GIRL Added by: Anonymous    Report abuse

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